Dear Harriet, I want to go into a relationship after a long break, please kindly
counsel me on the common mistakes to avoid in dating. Thanks, Mr. David. Akwa.
Making up your mind to date again after a long break simply shows’s that you
have actually overcome your past situation and that you are now prepared to
open a new chapter. It is always good to be ready before going into a relationship
because it helps you to avoid repeated occurrence of your previous experience.
Relationships have its ups and down just like every other aspect of life don’t
forget that it has to do with humans and by nature we are not perfect even with
our strength everybody have their challenges but the ability to understand this
fully puts us in a better position to learn to tolerant one and other not neglecting
the golden rule which is “do unto others what you want them to do to you” great
relationships don’t happen overnight – just like your daily chores, the need time,
effort and dedication. Therefore relationship is an investment like a bank account
what you put is what you get. Before I proceed on the topic at hand permit me to
state that the counsel is not for children/ teenagers this clarification is important
because I have young readers. For my young ones there is time for everything,
concentrate on your goals and vision. Avoid every form of distractions because
the sky is not just your limit rather it is your starting point. Moving on, As you
work towards building a successful relationship is very important to note that
there some common mistakes that should be avoided; hopefully this might be of
great benefit for you who have been off relationship for a long time, also for
those who are of age and feel that it is time for them to start a relationship. Firstly
as you are on a first date with your friend try to be yourself, avoid putting up
appearance to suit the person. Since it’s your first time of having a conversion
with the person don’t volunteer too much information up front because when
you share too much on at the beginning it’s as if you are verbally pouring out too
much words on the person and most times it puts people off. Instead make your
first date short and causal. Most people make the most ridiculous mistake on
their first outing, they get really intense so as a result they start asking deep
questions and staying up late trying to know everything in one day. Allow things
