Dear madam Harriet, i must confess that finding your blog is one good thing that happened to me. As a teenager i have a lot of sexual questions that i find difficult to ask my parents. don’t get me wrong i have a caring and loving family, who can do anything for me and my siblings but i am really struggling with my sexuality, please kindly advice me on what to do in order to avoid sexual thoughts. Help me, thanks.
TJ Lagos.
I must commend you for such courage to be open about your sexual thoughts. The initial step for help is self realisation, which is what you have shown by sending this message. i will like you to know that you are actually not alone in this struggle, a lot of teenagers are faced with this challenge because it is a natural course but how you handle the situation matters a lot. Every young male and female go through adolescence, which can be explained as a period in human development that occurs between the beginning of puberty and adulthood. As a matter of fact your hormones starts playing up at this stage therefore proper guidance must be given for full explanation to what you are feeling by your parents or a qualified counsellor, in order for you to get the right information. you must be mindful of the information you get from friends and social media at this pointing time. Read what i wrote on sexuality sex education that will be of help to you. In addition these tips will also assist you in your situation:
Guard your mind; do not read books, look at pictures, watch films or encourage fantasises that stimulate wrong desires.
keep away from settings and friends that tempt you in sexual ways
Do not think only of the moment, focus and think of the future.
Occupy your time with physical activities.
Take up a free on line training on your passion in order to improve yourself. Be busy because an idle mind is the devil’s workshop.
Note; No knowledge is lost and hard work never kills but pays.
