Good evening Harriet, my concern is the level of moral decadence in our society today. Parents who are supposed to be role model to their children are really not leading by example. Instead some are the ones that are really taking these children through the wrong path of life, let’s look at the mode of dressing, some young girls are provocative in their dressing seeing them you question the present of their parents. In addition, it will amaze you to know that a high number of these girls are sexually active with or without their parent’s knowledge. The question is who is to blame? Mothers don’t guide and lead their children in the ways of God any more, how many mothers actually give their children moral instructions, or pray with them as the case may be, they would rather sit to watch negative films that have no value added to their lives but destroys them. Daughters dress looking like club girl exposing themselves to danger and all sorts of vices. Correction is totally out of it because their parents see it as the way to belong so they get offended when you try to correct them. In addition the internet access is also an area that most parents have failed because a lot of these young children are pretending to be doing their home work while all they do is visiting or downloading pornography, parents are not checking. It beats my heart that in Port Harcourt it has become a common act and a very high percentage of mothers who are meant to be role model to their children are engage in extra marital affairs, it is so bad that the singles are complaining. Some married women have converted hotels to be their second home. Some are going out with younger boys all with the excuse that their husbands cannot satisfy them in bed. So tell me if mothers that are suppose to teach their children how to be decent, how to respect their bodies, are busy having affairs what do you expect. I decide to send you this message with my permission for publication to create awareness and for you to give counsel. Thanks
Malachi Onumajuru. Port Harcourt.
Thanks for sending us your message; the issue raised is one major challenge that affects our youth. Teach a child the way in which he should go and he will not depart from it. Children very carefully observe their parents and unknowingly and unconsciously become just like their parents. It is said that charity begins at home… just about everything begins at home; respect, obedience, kindness, attitudes, manners and skills. Sexuality and sex education is one topic that I will say we put out there almost every other month because of how it affects youngsters. Sex education is so important to the growing up of a youth and must be taught at home first before school. The information about sexuality must be clear and appropriate, according to their ages with good explanation about the physical and emotional changes. The reasons for the happenings and how to live a chaste life, to imagine parents encouraging their children in the way of destruction is a great issue of concern because parents are the role model to their children aforementioned, from what you wear as a parent, to your attitude towards others and the kind of life style you live, set out objectives for children’s zeal to achieve their vision and dreams independently. If a parent wants her children to be in a certain way she must set the pace by living a life what coping. Children act on what they see their parents do as a result they can only give what they have. The behaviour of your children tells a lot about you, indecent mode of dressing exposes young ones to danger if care is not taking. Parents should learn to teach their children all that they need to know about good morals and values through living by example. Let’s face it, a child negative way of life comes back to hurt the parent who led them into it. . The internet is such a big and open world that anybody can do anything, as a result a lot of children have been hurt; for example some are experiencing cyber bulling, sexual abuse, and verbal abuse at present. Trust me; the motive of parents, in providing these technologies is to aid children not to harm them so it’s is your responsibility to know how to keep them safe on line. some parents feel they don’t really understand how the internet works that their children know more than them, forgetting that technology changes on a day to day basis and the best way to stay informed is to get involved (understand the internet and how it works) sometimes sit with your children tell them to show you what they are doing and how it works, who said it is too late to learn. Parents should monitor the site their children visit on line. More so, the aspect of infidelity is also a great issue that we have high number of text and email on. Tips have been given in the past on this page on specific aspect of infidelity. However for this present case of married women who are suppose to be role models to their children are now engaging in extra marital affairs, whether to younger boys or men with the excuse that their husbands cannot satisfy them in bed is not acceptable, there is no moral justification to the act of infidelity, marriage is a union ordained by God and must be respected. If a woman discovers that her husband is not meeting up to her sexual desire instead of bringing destruction to her home have a discussion with your husband, be open to him and tell him how it is affecting you or if possible go with him to see a counselor who will guide you on how to handle the situation. Your body as a married woman/ man must be respected and protected. Take care of yourself and each other.
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